How to Drive your Partner Crazy and Ruin your Relationship

David Olsen, Ph.D, LCSW

One of the problems of being human is that we interpret everything. We naively think that when we communicate, the important people in our lives hear exactly what we said and understand what we mean. Anyone in a serious relationship knows it is not that simple - then add in texting, social media, email, etc, and the problem becomes even more complicated. Those in intimate relationships are constantly interpreting what their partner “really means” or what the “hidden message” is, and as a result we can get into very complicated conversations ending with “but that is not what I said”, or “that is not what I meant”... or some variation. If you’ve had that conversation, you know that it often ends badly.

So if you want to make your partner crazy and add to the complications of interpretation try the following techniques:

As you are reading this, you are probably saying “this is crazy!” - which, of course, it is. However, these are common ways we unconsciously process our relationships, which always makes them worse. In contrast try the following: